I’d never really read romance novels until the summer of 1997. Oh, it isn’t that I’d never seen one, one of my aunts was an avid reader of Danielle Steele.
However
the summer of 1997 my dad had exploratory surgery. Sitting in the hospital
waiting for the surgeon to advise us as to the outcome, I needed something to
distract me other than a Tom Clancy or psych-thriller-type book.
The
hospital gift shop had Nora Roberts’ books and, while I don’t remember the
title, I never looked back. You see, even though the surgeon said the operation
was a success and the cancer had been removed, that wasn’t true.
When
my dad’s balance went and his eye-sight was affected and the headaches
relentlessly pounded, my mom relented and let me make an appointment to see an
oncologist.
Trade
paperbacks by Nora, Susan Elizabeth Phillips, Jo Beverley and a myriad others
easily tucked into my purse. One was always on hand to distract me while waiting.
And
that’s how my path to writing romance started. I read, immersed myself in the
stories knowing that a happily-ever-after waited for me on the last page, while
knowing a happily-ever-after was not waiting for me in my real life.
My
dad died March 8, 1998. I was invited to join Wild Women Writers in December
1999. Originally I was going to take a personal growth program I’d developed in
the early 1980’s and turn it into a book. I dithered around with that project
for a year and then the magic happened.
I
started remembering dreams, having day dreams, hearing voices of women who
wanted me to tell their stories. They each wanted a happily-ever-after and were
positive I was the only one who could write about them. All those hours of
escaping into the pages of romance novels rushed back. I put the personal
growth book away and started writing down the visions and voices that would not
leave me alone.
Would
I be a romance author now if not for all those books I read in hospital rooms
and doctor’s offices? Read at night or when I couldn’t sleep in an effort to
push away the darkness of grief at losing my dad?
Would
I have taken the plunge if I hadn’t had these books in my hands?
I
don’t think so.
While
I’m no Nora or Susan or Jo, if one reader benefits from my books like I did
from theirs, then I’m happy.
After
working in social services for fifty or so years, one thing I know is this truth:
We never know the impact we have on
others. We never know if something we’ve said or written or done will change
someone’s life.
What
I also know is true is that when we move forward in our lives with love in our
hearts and our deeds, we do no harm. And what better caveat than that – we send
love into the world and did no harm.
© 2018 Judith Ashley
Romance books have helped me through some tough times, too, Judith. Is the personal growth program you developed the one you are turning into a book or books now?
ReplyDeleteI love the way your stories came to you! You were meant to be a writer!
I 100% agree with your statement: "We never know the impact we have on others. We never know if something we’ve said or written or done will change someone’s life."
ReplyDeleteI have had many readers write me about what one of my Sweetwater Canyon books means to them. Those notes make up for any questions I have about why I write. I may not be making the money I wished, or have the thousands upon thousands of books sold, but each note keeps me going.
I'm sure your books do the same for others, Judith--both your fiction and nonfiction. I like the positive examples in your books. It shows true emotion when people meet obstacles to their hearts desire. But it also shows their are choices and how to look at the possibilities and move forward. That is something I believe serves everyone.
Keep writing, both fiction and nonfiction.
Yes, reading has been my salvation over the years. I was reading Mary Stewart and Phyllis Whitney back in the 70s. I think the first romance novel I read was Forever Amber. I was a teenager then. In the 70s I also started reading Harlequins. One of the other teachers in the building brought me a sack of Harlequins to read and told me they would reduce my stress. They helped. And I was hooked. In the summer of 1978 I started writing my first romance novel, on a typewriter. So I've been playing at this writing game for about forty years.
ReplyDeleteBooks of all sorts have seen me through some stressful and tough times. At night I like reading a chapter or two of my current historical read, usually Regency. Those books are good and not scary like a thriller. I love thrillers and romantic suspense but only read those in the day time.
ReplyDeleteI read at night to distract myself from the ringing in my ears, it helps and I'm usually asleep by the end of the chapter.
Great post on your journey!
While I read Gothic Romances in high school because I liked the foreign settings and they were the biggest books in the library, ;), I didn't start reading romance until in my 20s. I'd read mostly mysteries. One day, I picked up a Nora Roberts book at a store because I needed something to read and didn't have a library book. I liked her book. Then I picked up a LaVyrle Spencer from the library and I was hooked on books by those to authors and while I'd been trying to write a mystery, I switched to writing romance. I like that romance has an HEA at the end of every book. Good post, Judith!
ReplyDeleteSarah, Yes, "Love, Power, Freedom, Fun: How To Get More" is in a very rough draft form right now. So much fun to get back to "my roots" with this book.
ReplyDeleteThanks Maggie, I do plan on continuing to write both fiction and non-fiction. I'm so pleased with the "Visions of ..." series that is connected to the original Sacred Women's Circle series. As long as the stories come to me, I'll be writing them. So far, I've 3 - 4 non-fiction books (one publishing "Staying Sane in a Crazy World", one in rough draft and 2 with notes). I appreciate your comments about my books. I always hope something one of my characters does makes a difference in a reader's life. Bonus points! Having read your "Sweetwater Canyon" series I understand why you get notes from readers.
ReplyDeleteBarb, I totally remember writing reports on a typewriter - and I barely passed typing in high school. If I had the speed, I had too many errors. If I typed slower and eliminated errors, I didn't meet the speed requirement. Computers are so much easier! And you also use Scrivener which is another program that makes an author's life easier.
ReplyDeleteDiana, I still can't read thrillers or a really suspenseful story even in daylight hours. I do love my historical novels any time of the day or night. I've been reading more mysteries in part because authors I know and love are writing in that genre. Glad reading books helps you end your day. I used to read in bed at night but stopped when I started having sleep problems. Thanks for stopping by!
ReplyDeletePaty, I'm delighted you were hooked on reading mysteries and romance and that you now write both. Love your Shandra Higheagle mysteries. Your Spirit Trilogy, the Halsey brother's series...the list is long. I know you are writing more westerns and I've got them on my TBR list.
ReplyDeleteYou are you and don’t need to be anyone else. Nora. Anyone. Each author has something unique to offer. As for you...
ReplyDeleteYou are inspiring, enlightening and giving and it is reflected in your books and in all the things you do to support your friends and fellow writers.
Your experience moves me, Judith. Reading romance has helped me through some really tough times also. And I don't think we're alone in that experience. Your desire to make a difference and write stories to lift someone on a day they really need it shows you write from a loving heart.
ReplyDeleteAnnie, I agree each of us has something unique to offer in our stories. Thank you for the kind words about my efforts.
ReplyDeleteDora, Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I do believe readers can tell when we are writing stories that touch our hearts and souls. The write to market may work for some people but not for me - nor for you.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post, Judith. Many of us need a happy ending to help us deal with our lives. And many of us enjoy writing them, too!
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