In April my husband and I will be celebrating 20 years of marriage. For some reason it doesn't seem like it's been that long (although once in a while it'll feel longer) but to be honest, from the first date, I knew I'd found my soul mate.
While my husband isn't the most romantic man in this world and it's because he just doesn't believe in it...or so he says....there are times when he does surprise me. For instance when I first told him I was writing a book he went out and bought me a notebook with several legal-sized tablets, some new pens and an electronic dictionary/thesaurus. I can't tell you how much it meant to me, that he not only supported me from the get-go, but that he believed I could do it before I believed it...this from a man who's first gift to me was a ceiling fan.
Anyway, we've never really thought about the romance....it was there, but we didn't go out of our way to include it. When you have four children you're focus is on taking care of them and spending as much time with them as possible before they grow up and get their own lives, but that doesn't mean we neglected each other.
Now that the kids are no longer babies, my husband and I are relearning how to be a couple. One of the things we've started doing is have a 'date night', which is usually dinner and a movie. Since we don't have to worry about getting a sitter or coming in at a decent hour (which we do anyway because we're old ha-ha) we can go away for a weekend or even just get a room for the night....there's a lot to be said for sex in a motel room... (sorry.... is that TMI?? heh).
Oh, and speaking of our anniversary, although we haven't planned anything yet (because I have a conference that week in Scottsdale) I thought I'd play our wedding song for you. My husband chose it to be the song for our first dance...see...he surprises me. :)