Love is one of the essentials every being needs. Love comes in all forms.
Family
love is one of those loves that should be a given. It’s not always guaranteed.
But true family love is usually the first love someone experiences. This love is
about modeling, giving attention and unconditional love, and accepting the same
in return, between those you are bonded to—whether by genetics or circumstance.
Family love is about deep caring for another in your immediate circle. It is a
love filled with quality time spent with another, commitment, and touching, as
a way of showing that love.
In writing,
we use family love, or lack thereof, as a backdrop to round out our characters.
Many times, it is in the form of the emotional backstory for a character. The
reality of love, given or not given, affects how a character reacts to the many
challenges in life and relationships built.
Friendship
is love. Some friendships are fleeting, but when you are in that friendship, it
means the world to you. Friends are there to back you up, to give you advice,
to celebrate your victories, and share with and embolden you during low points
in your life. Some friendships last a lifetime. Others may be bonds that last
while you’re in certain phases of your life—childhood buddies, college friends,
workplace colleagues, neighbors. Some of those friendships fade when your life
takes a different turn. And others will endure, despite life going in opposite
directions.
As authors, we show how this kind of love impacts our characters, often, through their relationship with secondary characters.
One
can show love for an inanimate object. Your love for your job or your church or
an organization you volunteer for, is a love of giving. Giving a gift of
service or toward a common goal, shows love of a cause. Or one shows love for pets,
who for many are an integral part of the family. Pets also return love and can
be woven into a story as a supportive secondary character.
Being a true partner to another is love. You make a pledge to a love you choose. You’re invested in that love through thick and thin. You both give and take as a partner. You give affection, respect, trust, and touch, and you open yourself to accepting those same gifts from another. This kind of love is an integral part of a romance novel. Not only must a writer show the physical act of love—a kiss or holding hands—but the author must portray emotion that the reader will feel as they read the story.
Love might not conquer all, stem problems, or cure an illness. But love, to me, no matter the form in which it is presented, is an essential part of having a happy and successful life.
As
a writer of romance, always looking for love in each story I write, I can’t
imagine a world where love isn’t important.
The
challenge, as a writer, as we throw all sorts of obstacles in the path of our
characters, is finding a way to help them work through and resolve all the
issues that stand in their way of reaching for and accepting love. That means
gifting your characters with all the above-mentioned: quality time with a loved
one; open communication, including both verbal and non-verbal affirmation from
a loved one; gifts that show you are appreciated, which come in many
forms—physical, spiritual, and emotional; meaningful communication; and acts of
service that are unasked for, but appreciated.
Building
relationships between characters has to be shown through verbal and non-verbal
communication that helps each character understand those types of communication
are a show of love for another and from the other.
When
THE END is written on each story, the feeling is euphoria. Not because you, the
writer, labored through every word placed on the page, and lived viscerally through
the emotional ups and downs as the characters built a relationship full of
love, but for the fact, that despite all odds and denial, your characters found,
worked for, and then accepted the love of another.
What is your favorite trope in a romance story?
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8 comments:
Well said, Deb! Enjoyed how you delved into all the different aspects of love. Love you my internet friend!!!
A lovely post, pun intended! Wishing you lots of love, Delsora.
I'm not sure I have a favorite trope, but I did enjoy your accurate descriptions of love. Great post!
Delsora, you certainly did your homework and then some! I'm not sure I have a favorite trope but I do have favorite themes. The one that shows up the most in my writing is learning to trust oneself and others. The one I like to read is about trusting one's instincts/gut and finding away around obstacles by, in part, believing it will work out, coming back to trust in the end even when doubts arise.
Diana, Back at'cha, internet friend. So glad you could stop by.
Thanks, Lynn- glad you could stop by for a bit of love therapy.
Carly - I hear you. I have WAY TOO MANY tropes that I love. The fun of reading many different romance genres and authors
Judith - I think trust is key to love and to our stories, as our characters build trust in themselves and others. So, I totally agree.
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