Saturday, March 19, 2022

Please Spare Me the Stupid Heroines ... by Jennifer Wilck

I’ve been reading romance for what seems like forever. Sure, I read other genres, but since I first felt those pangs of love, I’ve enjoyed reading about the hero’s and heroine’s journey to love, and I’ve sighed in pleasure when they achieve their well-deserved happily ever after. Over the years, the genre has changed, whether it be due to society’s acceptance of things, social norms, changes in writing style, or just time passing. The flowery writing of the eighties would be laughed off the shelves now. But even when I reread books from then, I can accept a lot of things that wouldn’t fly today.

The one thing I’ll never accept?

Dumb heroines.

You know the heroine I’m talking about. In movies or TV shows, she’s the one that hears a noise and goes toward it. Or does something incredibly stupid that has no reason for occurring, other than maybe allowing some character to rush in and save her, even though she should know—as does the entire audience—not to do that.

The same holds true in romance books. I don’t want to read about a woman who can’t function on her own, who absolutely needs a man to save her.* I’m perfectly fine with vulnerability. I’m fine with a heroine making mistakes—we all do that, and it’s one of the qualities that make characters relatable. But being unable to function without the hero is a reading turnoff for me.

For that reason, when I became a writer, I made sure to write strong heroines. Some of them are single moms, who might be tired and overworked, but are fully capable of holding down a job and taking care of their child. They might wish things were different, but they’re capable and fully functioning.

Others are escaping a past where they’ve made life-altering mistakes. Were their mistakes stupid? Possibly. Then again, hindsight is 20/20, and we’ve all done things that we regret. But they’ve learned from their mistakes and are determined not to repeat them.

Some are either chasing a future that is markedly different from their childhood. They’ve seen what their parents have done, and they are determined to do things differently. Do they slip up? Sometimes. But they pull themselves up, figure out what they did wrong, and change their direction.

So how does my hero fit into the life of a strong heroine? Well, first, I love writing damaged heroes. So quite often, it’s my heroine who is “saving” my hero. She challenges him, teases him, and forces him to consider things he hadn’t considered before.

Second, if the hero does swoop in and do any saving, it’s on her terms. If he’s arrogant and bossy, he soon learns he’ll have to change his behavior in order for her to accept anything, much less help, from him.

And third, the heroes and heroines in my stories ultimately share the load equally. Falling in love doesn’t mean giving up one’s dreams. In my stories, it means expanding them. Relationships require communication and compromise—on both sides. It’s only at that point where both of them realize that accepting help isn’t a sign of weakness, and strength comes in many forms.

*For the purposes of this blog, I’m talking about M/F romances, since that is what I typically read and always write. However, I have read some really great M/M romances, too, and I’m happy to recommend authors if you’re interested (ones who don’t write stupid characters).

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Jennifer Wilck is an award-winning contemporary romance author for readers who are passionate about love, laughter, and happily ever after. Known for writing both Jewish and non-Jewish romances, her books feature damaged heroes, sassy and independent heroines, witty banter, and hot chemistry. Jennifer’s ability to transport the reader into the scene, create characters the reader will fall in love with, and evoke a roller coaster of emotions, will hook you from the first page. You can find her books at all major online retailers in a variety of formats.

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9 comments:

JENNIFER WILCK said...

Thank you so much for hosting me!

Judith Ashley said...

Jennifer, Thank you for being our guest! I totally agree with you on the 'stupid heroine'. That may be why I've put aside a book I started 4 months ago and can't seem to even pick it up much less start reading it again.

Lynn Lovegreen said...

Hi Jennifer, thanks for the post. I agree that romance characters should have equal power and agency. I don't want a stupid heroine (or hero) either.

Deb N said...

Love this post, Jennifer! My first book to be published, as I was having it edited, I got quite a dressing down by the editor for my wimpy heroine. When I read what I had written, I realized - OMG - she is so right. Just because she has issues and is damaged in some way, she still needs to be "heroic" in her own life. As does the hero. they can be damaged, but they still have to be strong enough to help themselves and the other person. Love your books!

JENNIFER WILCK said...

Judith, I hate when that happens! I feel like I SHOULD finish it, but just can't.

Lynn, I totally agree with you!

Deb, thank you so much! I've had the same thing happen with my characters--luckily my critique partners usually catch it for me. :)

Babs Mountjoy said...

I loved this column and agree wholeheartedly. As a former divorce attorney, I saw too many woman who just glommed on to their next mistake because they were afraid of being on their own. Ugh.

Anna Taylor Sweringen said...

Great post, Jennifer. Happy sales.

Shirley Goldberg said...

Great article, shared it to my Facebook.

Sarah Raplee said...

I loved your post, Jennifer! Wimpy heroines or heroines with no common sense annoy me. Annoying me is the one sure way to make me stop reading. Thanks for Guesting at RTG.