Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 16, 2024

Bragging: Or At Least Talking Myself Up...A Bit - - - - by Delsora Lowe

This month’s theme is bragging, ah, er, I mean, telling all of you the three things that I think are my strengths or things I do well.

That’s a hard one. Because, even though there are certain things I love to do, I never feel as though I am great at any of them. But I have to admit, maybe I am good at some of them. And at the same time, always trying to improve.

The obvious is I am good, getting better, but not a star, at writing. I have practiced a lot since I was a kid. My freshman year at a new high school, my teacher submitted a story I had written from a child’s point-of-view, about his little red wagon. It ended up in the school’s quarterly literary magazine. I wanted to run and hide, because I thought people would think I had a childish mind. I survived the ordeal—which wasn’t the ordeal my imagination thought it would be.

My three grandsons, who are all in high school now!

My first-year college English professor “kicked me out” of the required grammar class, because I already knew “that stuff.” As an aside, for the few weeks I was in his class, he also drilled in the use of the Oxford comma. When I went back to finish my degree fifteen years later after marriage and kids, my professors in various disciplines, asked me where I learned to write. So, I offer many thanks to my high school English classes, that at the time were pure torture. However, I did learn to write.

Here are two other areas that I think I am able to achieve in.

First: Cooking—and by that, I mean, I am able to make anything out of nothing. To me food is not only nourishment, but inspiration. I love recipes, but I never follow them. Oh, I try. But then I say to myself…hmmm, I bet if I add this or that, this recipe will be better. Or I look in the fridge and groan, because I haven’t been to the grocery store lately, and I make up a recipe out of anything that is still useable in the fridge. Or I scan the cupboards. I mix and match and add a tidbit of this and a spoonful of that, and a shake of something else.


I have my maternal grandmother and both my parents to thank for showing me how it's done in the kitchen. Use up leftovers in inventive ways. Never let anything go to waste. And always have enough wine - whoops - channeling my dad. Here's to you, Dad, as I hold up my stemmed glass toward the heavens.

I do the same thing in the grocery store since my list says bread, meat, fish, veggies, salad stuff, soup, etc. I have to feel “in the mood.” Today the butternut squash calls to me. Next time it might be broccoli or turnip or beets or avocado. And then as I wander the isles, or survey the meat and fish displays, or check out cheeses I have never tried, I devise my menus for the next few days. Okay, so I may be one of the few who love to grocery shop, and I especially love to wander the farmers market, where each week the offerings are different, depending on harvest times. My brain snaps into creative cooking mode.

Living in Maine – lobster, a favorite ingredient in a meal

The second other thing I am good at is TALKING. I can hear the groan from the peanut gallery of those who know me well. Yup—she talks ALL THE TIME. I love to talk with friends. But I also chat up the store clerk or cashier, anyone in line with me, or anyone searching for the same item in a store. But that love of chat came in handy in my chosen, and not-so-chosen, careers and jobs in hospitality, retail, event planning, government, non-profits, etc. In those jobs it’s a requirement to speak to strangers.

And out of that type of work, I also became good at being a connector of people.

            One example is that during 9/11, I worked in a school in Washington, D.C. It was also my alma mater. We had alumni all over the country, as well as living overseas. I received many calls from people worried about their former classmates in D.C. and N.Y.C. I also heard from many in those affected areas reporting in. I became a conduit between friends.

Part of my job was organizing gatherings for alumni all over the country. That included finding venues and caterers, plus programming for each event. That might include bringing along a beloved professor, or finding an alum in the area who had an interesting career they could speak about, or who had authored a book. I also used to connect alumni from different generations who had things in common—like similar jobs, lived in the same area, or had the same interests. Or those alumni who were looking for jobs and those who might be mentors in that search.

Working in non-profits and alumni relations, connecting like-minded people to resources, job opportunities, or other people who like the same things or are in similar careers, becomes a given. And now, with a network of writers all over the country, it is fun to connect other writers to resources, or authors who write in similar genres, or have areas of expertise needed by that author. And…luckily, they do the same for me. Writing romance is one of my joys in life. And with that goes staying in touch with my good friends, and connecting with authors who may have advice to help me on my journey.

It’s all about the networking, no matter whether it is a job search, connecting with people who have similar interests, jobs, or hobbies, or a simple helpful gesture guiding a lost shopper in the direction of the aisle filled with ice cream. So put on that bright smile and connect. You might be surprised at how much fun it is, even when you know you may never cross paths with that person again.



What is something you think you do well? 
And why do you believe you do this item well?

 


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~ cottages to cabins ~ keep the home fires burning ~

Delsora Lowe writes small town and contemporary western sweet and spicy romances, from the mountains of Colorado to the shores of New England.

Author of the Starlight Grille series, Serenity Harbor Maine novellas, and the Cowboys of Mineral Springs series, Lowe has also authored short romances for Woman’s World magazine (most recently, an Easter romance in the April 1, 2024 edition.) The Love Left Behind is a Hartford Estates, R.I. wedding novella with Book 2 on the way. A Christmas novel (The Inn at Gooseneck Lane) and novella (Holiday Hitchhiker – the youngest brother of the Mineral Spring’s ranching family) were the most recent releases. Look for book 3 of the cowboy’s series, as well as book 2 of the Hartford Estates series, coming soon.

 Social Media Links:

Author website: www.delsoralowe.com
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Amazon Author page:
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BookBub Author Page: https://www.bookbub.com/authors/delsora-lowe-93c6987f-129d-483d-9f5a-abe603876518
Goodreads Author Page:
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Instagram: #delsoralowe / https://www.instagram.com/delsoralowe/

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Tuesday, February 21, 2023

February is Known for Relationships … by Delsora Lowe

One of the first things that comes to mind when February rolls around, besides it being one of our coldest months in the northeast, is Valentine’s Day. This is a celebration of that special love relationship between partners.

But there are other relationships, and other ways to build those relationships. 

Since the start of the pandemic a few years ago, and the rise in usage of social media and meeting apps, we now build new or rekindle old relationships virtually.

For example, my second cousins who I usually hear from around the holidays via a card, all got together on ZOOM to chat after my mom passed away. Mom was the conduit between all of us. Their mothers and my mom were best friends growing up in a small town. And later the three cousins married and moved to big cities. My mom to Washington, D.C. and my mother’s two cousins to New York City.

Us kids all saw each other in the summer when the “girls” (mom and her cousins) all met back in their tiny hometown west of NYC. They grew up a block away from each other. But we, the second cousins once removed, grew up, moved to various parts of the country and only stayed in touch through holiday cards or letters written to my mom. The ZOOM chat was the first time we’d seen each other face-to-face (electronically) in many years. In a way it was a bit unusual, as we were by now virtually strangers.  But in another way, the ZOOM gathering was wonderful to catch-up and talk about our parents and the times we spent together as children. And then to find out all we were doing now as adults with our own families.


All of us have dear friends, as well as relationships / friends in the workplace. In my professional life, as an author, I saw the state members of my local writing chapter, monthly for meetings.

 

But my state is large and many who live farther north or south, rarely attend monthly meetings. I joined my home chapter in 2004, so many are now close, close friends, as well as colleagues. And now, my local chapter also has many “long-distance” members from other states. Many are friends I have made over the internet and through personal meetings at conferences.

Some of those farther away are able to attend our state’s annual writing retreat, where we all spend the night in a hotel and attend workshops, writing sprints, and enjoying meals together. What a treat to see each other in person. Lots of hugging and chatting and sharing about writing—a truly inspiring weekend.

I belong, as a long-distance member to several out-of-state writing groups. The highlight each year, was traveling to other states to the writing conferences and seeing those I only saw once a year. But those conferences have gone by the wayside.


Enter ZOOM and other virtual media sites, and we are now able to see each other again. Granted, we are chatting to a bunch of small boxes with faces. But we are chatting real-time. And that has helped keep relationships going. And allowed us to build new relationships with people we haven’t met in person. It might not be the same as sitting down to a meal together, or chatting it up in the cocktail lounge, or at the conference table. But it is the next best thing to keeping our friendships and working relationships strong.

What tips do you have for building and maintaining relationships?

 


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~ cottages to cabins ~ keep the home fires burning ~

Delsora Lowe writes small town sweet and spicy romances and contemporary westerns from the mountains of Colorado to the shores of Maine.

Author of the Starlight Grille series, Serenity Harbor Maine novellas, and the Cowboys of Mineral Springs series, and the novella The Love Left Behind, Lowe has also authored short romances for Woman’s World magazine. Recently released were two Christmas stories: The Inn at Gooseneck Lane and Holiday Hitchhiker.

 

Social Media Links:
Author website
:
www.delsoralowe.com
Facebook Author page:
https://www.facebook.com/delsoraloweauthor/community/
Amazon Author page:
https://www.amazon.com/Delsora-Lowe/e/B01M61OM39/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0
Books2Read Author page:
https://www.books2read.com/ap/8GWm98/Delsora-Lowe
BookBub Author Page:
https://www.bookbub.com/authors/delsora-lowe-93c6987f-129d-483d-9f5a-abe603876518
Goodreads Author Page:
https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/16045986.Delsora_Lowe
Instagram: #delsoralowe / https://www.instagram.com/delsoralowe/

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Monday, February 6, 2023

Relationships Through Writing by Paty Jager


This is kind of a coincidence that Relationship is the theme for this month’s blog posts. While I’ve been married for 44 years and feel like I have a pretty good relationship with my kids, I thought about the relationships I have in regard to my writing.

I love the fact I have found so many friends, really good friends, through my writing. From the authors who friended me when I was starting out, to the new writers I’ve helped along the way, and even to my readers. And then there are the bookstores who have me back.  I’ve built some fun relationships with many people over the years.

Back when I started writing, I was a backward thinker. I know it sounds weird, but I’d put the reaction before the action when writing a sentence. I entered many contests hosted by the Romance Writers of America. They had ones where you could send in the love scene, the meet-up scene, or the first chapter. I would usually do fairly well in the contests, but I was getting frustrated with getting my pages back with lots of lines through sentences and nothing that told me what I was doing wrong.

Then one contest the judge explained to me what I was doing wrong and said she liked my writing and gave me her email address. I contacted her and we began to private message each other once a week. She helped me start my career as an author and I will always be thankful to her for her kindness in pointing out what I was doing wrong. Through the years I have also made some long-lasting friendships with other writers whom I met through our RWA chapter or at RWA conferences. Even now, I meet other authors at conferences and book events and find those I connect with, and we stay in contact.

There have been about a dozen writers whom I’ve helped with either their writing, their promotion, or just moral support over the years who have become good friends. I enjoy giving back as my friend, in the beginning, gave to me. I have been a leader of a 4-H writing group. There were a couple of very talented young ladies whom I hope to see a book on a shelf with their names on one day. And I have belonged to many writer’s groups and critique groups over the years. Again, when you meet often and learn not only about people’s writing but their lives you become invested in their lives and become friends.

And my readers! I would not be still writing if not for the wonderful emails and comments from readers. I love it when someone writes and said I helped them forget their pain while they read my book. And the people who listen to my books while they sew or jog or walk their dogs. At in-person events, I get to talk to the people who purchase my books. It’s so fun to put names to faces and to visit about their life since we’d last seen one another.

My friendship with bookstore owners is growing. I love going back to stores I’ve been to before and seeing how they are doing and meet some of the same people. I have a presentation at the NIWA monthly Zoom meeting this month on planning book events. I’ll be speaking about the ways I build a relationship with bookstore owners.

Helping me to grow my relationships is my newest release: Bear Stalker-book 10 in the Gabriel Hawke series.

Bear Stalker


Book 10 in the Gabriel Hawke Series

Greed, Misdirection, and Murder

Oregon State Trooper Gabriel Hawke’s sister, Marion, is on a corporate retreat in Montana when she becomes a murder suspect. Running for her life from the real killer, she contacts Hawke for help.  

Hawke heads to Montana to find his sister and prove she isn’t a murderer. He hasn’t seen Marion in over twenty years but he knows she wouldn’t kill the man she was about to marry.

As they dig into possible embezzlement, two more murders, and find themselves trying to outsmart a wilderness-wise kidnapper, Hawke realizes his sister needs to return home and immerse herself in their heritage. Grief is a journey that must be traveled and knowing her fiancé had wanted Marion to dance again, Hawke believes their culture would help her heal.

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Paty Jager is an award-winning author of 54 novels, 8 novellas, and numerous anthologies of murder mystery and western romance. All her work has Western or Native American elements in them along with hints of humor and engaging characters. Paty and her husband raise alfalfa hay in rural eastern Oregon. Riding horses and battling rattlesnakes, she not only writes the western lifestyle, she lives it. This is what Books a Plenty Book Reviews has to say about the Gabriel Hawke series: "The blend of nature tracking, clues, and the animals makes for a fascinating mystery that is hard to put down."

Saturday, February 4, 2023

Relationships a Hard Road to Travel

by Diana McCollum

February is the month for celebrating or honoring those in our lives that we love. #Relationships can be a tricky road to travel. Here are some quotes on love, caring, and relationships. Enjoy!




“When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.” 
― 
Jess C. Scott, The Intern






"A relationship is like a car, when you have a flat tyre, you don’t just leave the car to get a new one, but you try to replace and change the bad tyre to keep it moving."=unknown









Hope you've enjoyed these quotes and they've given you something to think about!

Have a great weekend!!!

Friday, January 7, 2022

2022 = 6 - A Relationship Year

Hi, I’m Judith Ashley, author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, soul nourishing romantic women’s fiction with light paranormal elements. My stories show you what life could be like if you had a place like The Circle where you are unconditionally accepted, supported and loved. And where, with this support, you make choices to overcome the darkest nights and choose love and light.

Here we are at the start of a new year. 2022 is a ‘6’ year. 2 + 2 + 2 = 6. I’m certainly not an expert on Numerology so I invite those of you who know more than I do to add your knowledge to this post in the Comments below.

What I do know about the number six is it is about relationships.

So the question then becomes, relationships with whom?

The list could be long or very very short. The very very short list is comprised of one word: Everyone!

What does it take to work on relationships?

That answer can be complex or simple.

Simple is to treat others as we want to be treated. That includes being kind, compassionate, caring, understanding, tolerant, accepting and forgiving among other traits.

Complex, from my perspective, means we spend our energy trying to make other people different instead of accepting them as they are.

One of my beliefs is that we are all on our own path in this lifetime and all of our experiences are opportunities for us to learn and grow as individuals. Those of you who have read my books both fiction and non-fiction as well as previous blog posts over the years know that I see love as having two parts.

The emotion of love is one part but what is even more critical is the behavior piece. Many of us have known or even still know people who say they love us but engage in non-loving behaviors. Dr. William Glasser called those behaviors the 7 Deadly Habits: criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and rewarding to control. I’d add physicality such as hitting, kicking, pushing, shoving, etc.

None of these choices help our relationships and all of them are an attempt to make someone else change.

Dr. Glasser also had the 7 Caring Habits: supporting, encouraging, listening (to understand rather than counter), accepting, trusting, respecting and negotiating differences. I think you’ll see some repetition from my earlier paragraph on making a relationship work.

Change is not always easy and 2022 gives us a new opportunity to change our choices if we want better relationships. Learning to accept if not love a person who is diametrically opposed to who we are is not always easy. Accepting the truth that the only person’s behavior we can change is our own is Step #1.

What relationships do you want to nurture or improve in 2022? And don’t forget your relationship with you!!!

You can learn more about how to create relationships that work in my Sacred Women’s Circle series.

My Staying Sane in a Crazy World, provides you with a template to create your Personal Staying Sane Plan to help you through the challenging times.

You can find all of my books at your favorite e-book vendor. Be sure to ask your local library if you’d prefer to read my books through that resource.


Learn more about Judith's The Sacred Women’s Circle series at 
JudithAshley.net

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© 2022 Judith Ashley

 

Saturday, July 3, 2021

Peace in Images


FIND  PEACE IN NATURE



 







FIND  PEACE IN RELATIONSHIPS












FIND  PEACE IN REST










FIND  PEACE IN CREATIVITY



What are your ways to find peace in daily life?

Please share in the comments.