It never fails...
It's hilarious, actually.
Whenever I watch a movie about weddings, and the main character or best friend says something along the lines of, "I've been planning this day my whole life," I usually start laughing. A lot of my friends don't understand that just because I'm a romance author does not mean I've got traditional/typical romantic ideals. I've always been a little twisted and abnormal that way. Ha!
Once I've met that right someone, I want to elope. To save money, to prevent friends being insulted by my not asking them to be in the wedding (cuz I KNOW I'm not even that organized), and to...get on with the rest of our lives already.
Nowadays the questions that roll through my mind whenever I hear about weddings: why have weddings become so capitalized? Why has the wedding *INDUSTRY* become so huge at a time in which less and less relationships last?
My best friend didn't want anything big or expensive for her wedding. I told her about my vision--eloping and having a huge reception that I'd invite friends and family to. She and her hubby had a ceremony at the Justice of the Peace and a BBQ at a local lake. It was fun, intimate and very easy--pretty stress-free, actually.
A couple days later, I wrote her a letter. There are more times than not when a letter communicates what conversations cannot. I told her that love is love, and no matter where a wedding takes place it's special. That it takes courage to unflinchingly look into another person's eyes with such emotion--which is the key element that every wedding should have. And that I love her like a sister, therefore, her joy is my joy.
She keeps that letter tucked up into the visor in her car. So far her mother and her husband have both happened upon it, too. Both look at me differently now...
Small or large, expensive or frugal, wedding ceremonies should cater to the relationship. Am I into showing off a huge wedding cake or the bling on my dress? No. But some women need the celebration to be big.
What I wish for everyone at those special occasions, is that they never lose sight of the love. Take away the flowers, the clothes, the food and booze and family (singing some CRAZY karaoke), and you should still know...
It's ALL about the love.