New Year's resolutions don't work for me. I used the failed resolutions as reasons to be discouraged with myself, with life, with relationships and people around me. But I've ceased to make New Year's resolutions.
Instead, I've chosen to make affirmations.
See, the first step to true prosperity and happiness is to appreciate what you have NOW. Gaining more than what you have NOW is just an improvement upon an improvement upon an improvement.
I recently had my dearest friend tell me that my bad moods were affecting the people around me, and she frankly didn't want to be near me. Depression has a way of creeping up on some of us, I guess...and I think the lack of writing/creative expression lately has taken it's toll on me. I hadn't realized my negative attitude, let alone how it rubbed off on those around me.
At first I was hurt. Then I became angry. Then I made a choice: the "Attitude of Gratitude" again. I'd gotten myself out of a bad place before with the same attitude, and I could do it again.
Somehow I'd veered away from being grateful, appreciating what I have NOW. I've got a place to live, a warm bed, a car, great friends; I love Chapstik and mac 'n' cheese, and french toast, and I have a dog that ADORES me. I had to start with small things like sunsets and shoes, then worked my way into the bigger concepts.
I'm most thankful for my creativity. No one, not even I, can take that away from me. It's a part of who I am.
Once I reminded myself of how good it feels to be grateful (believe me, it's a process, and one that doesn't happen overnight. I had to work at being positive!), I chose to approach what my friend said as a blessing. She said what she said out of love, concern. And I truly believe it takes courage for anyone to tell someone they love the truth, knowing they are hurting feelings, because they know you have to hear it.
And I've started writing again! A new story for a new year, and a new lease on life. These concepts I've mentioned aren't new, and I definitely can't take credit for creating them. But I can say that approaching life with positivity, from the standpoint of love and hope and goodness, is a better way to live. I have a lot to be grateful for, especially the work of Jerry and Esther Hicks, and the Teachings of Abraham. If y'all want to know more about my mindset, go check out abraham-hicks.com...