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Sunday, February 8, 2015

In the Name of Love!

Be My Valentine!   

By: Marcia King-Gamble

On February 14th say it with flowers, cards, or candy, that's what the media says. In stores, sales skyrocket, and couples look forward to, what for some, can be a dreaded day. Those not in relationships are made to feel hopelessly inadequate or in some way lacking.

But this supposedly happy day, had a tragic start to it. It was the day St. Valentine’s, a Roman priest,  was tortured and beheaded.  While years have passed, and the day has been romanticized, the reality is that a life was brutally taken - and all because of differing religious beliefs.

The year was 270AD and Valentine, the Roman Priest, kept defying Emperor Claudius’s edict not to marry couples. Back then, there was a concentrated effort to stamp out the Christian faith.  Claudius felt that unmarried soldiers fought better than those married with families.

It was a pretty permissive society and polygamy was much more popular than monogamy. But the church believed that marriage was a sacred vow between one man and one woman, and that those monogamous relationships should last a lifetime.

Poor Valentine, who kept secretly marrying couples, was eventually caught and imprisoned. He was tortured because he went against the Emperor’s wishes. His jailer, Asterius, had a blind daughter who prayed with Valentine. She supposedly regained her sight. Asterius became a Christian as a result of this miracle and Valentine fell in love with Asterius's daughter. Valentine's last words in a note to  his love was signed, "From your Valentine."

And that, my friends, is how this day of celebrating love and romance got its auspicious start.

Now with Valentine’s Day around the corner, the age old question surfaces. What is love?

Is it that warm, fuzzy, feeling of being totally comfortable and accepted by another person?

Is it the flutter of  hearts and the trembling of limbs - that mouth gone dry feeling- described by we romance writers?

Is it an emotion that develops over time?

Can it be nurtured and cultivated?

When abused will love thrive?

As a writer of romance novels, I believe in love; the kind involving one man and one woman; a respectful love that blossoms and grows over time.

I believe in giving red roses, though truthfully I am more an orchid and sunflower person.

I believe in telling special people you love them, and not just on Valentine's.
I believe in showing I care, and that goes way beyond sending chocolates and flowers.

I believe in taking the time to hug or  kiss for no particular reason.

I believe in signing those gifts and cards from, “Your Valentine,” in honor of the saint's memory.

I believe in saying "I love you" and just because you do and can!

This Valentine's Day go forth and pay the sentiment forward. Have a Happy Valentine’s! 

Romance writer, Marcia King-Gamble hails from a sunny Caribbean island where the sky and ocean are the same mesmerizing shade of blue. This former travel industry executive and current world traveler has spent most of life in the United States. A National Bestselling author, Marcia has penned 27 books and 5 novellas. Her free time is spent at the gym, traveling to exotic locales, and caring for her animal family.

Visit Marcia at  or “friend” her on Facebook Marcia’s latest release “His Golden Heart” is available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and on Apple.


Judith Ashley said...

Well said, Marcia! I'd lost the story of how Valentine's Day came to be!

Love is so much more than fluttery feelings and the words "I Love You" on Valentine's Day. The words are important, the fluttery feelings are magical, but the day-to-day actions that show love, respect, compassion, etc. are what seals the deal in my book.

I know love is more powerful than hate. Valentine's Day is at least one time a year when many people focus on showing another person they are loved and special.

Sarah Raplee said...

I love that Valentine's Day is a celebration of Love!

Thoughtful and interesting post, Marcia!

Marcia King-Gamble said...

Thanks, ladies for stopping by and adding your comments. Happy Valentine's Day to you both.

Marcia King-Gamble said...

Thanks, ladies for stopping by and adding your comments. Happy Valentine's Day to you both.

Naomi Baltuck said...

I love all the fun facts!

Sophia Knightly said...

Wonderful post, Marcia! I enjoyed reading it. Thoughtful and inspiring!