I don't often take relationship advice from a tale about a world-ending apocalypse, but does the source really matter if the suggestions are good? I recently gleened several lessons from a television show. The January 29th episode of The Last Of Us showed that the quality of a relationship between two people can make the difference between surviving and thriving. When you have nothing, you have nothing to lose. We all need something to lose.
This post will not be giving away any spoilers about the game, which I have never played, or the tv episode, which I can't stay away from. As a writer, I know that the quality of a relationship can make the difference between surviving and thriving. As a human being, it occurs to me that if you can find happiness in the middle of an apocalypse, surely some of those lessons can apply to today’s world. Those are two reasons why I chose to add this episode, and this song, to my list of mentor texts both for writing, and for my life.
Lesson 1 – Every story is improved by incorporating a loving relationship.
I once had a writing instructor tell me that no matter what the genre, every story should include a touch of romance. The screenplay for “Long, long time” demonstrated that even a horror story about the entire globe falling apart, audiences can be enthralled by a love story that fits in
the environment. If it is true for every story, maybe it is also true for real life.
Lesson 2 - Maturity is your friend.
The English poet Robert Browning wrote: 
It’s true, you and I do not live in the aftermath of an apocalypse. We can’t count on a world that consists only of us and our significant other with no interference from people who think they know better. The two men who form a loving couple in “Long, Long Time” might have never had a chance at a loving relationship in the ordinary world, the one filled with censure. The episode itself has been review-bombed, a determined few posting negative reviews about a story so many found loving and thought provoking. Had this story been a book it would already be on dozens of banned book lists. Instead the characters are free to develop a long-term, sixteen year loving relationship. One that does not end by a “suicide at the end of the play.”
“Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made.”As we get older, we have the time to learn what we really want, and need, from others. There aren’t enough romances written about people finding each other in their mature years. Even fewer that follow a sixteen year relationship between two men who triumph over a world of problems.
Lesson 3 – Don’t let the outside world interfere with your relationship.
Lesson 4 - “Paying attention is how we show love.”
That’s a quote from one of the characters explaining how his love language is different from his partner. His partner’s
corresponding quote is
“There was one person worth saving. I found him, and I saved him.”People will have different love languages. Different doesn't mean one loves less than the other, or more. Watch what they pay attention to, whether its protecting you, or doing what they can to make your life more relaxing.
“I’m old. I’m satisfied. And you were my purpose.”
Fighting for every last second is not always a worthwhile effort. Sometimes death is simply the next stage of life and therefore nothing to be feared by people who love each other. Yes, the two lovers are gay, but, as one reviewer said, I'm a sucker for healthy, happy relationships. One where the characters are together for years and years, through the good times and the bad. The two men beat the apocalypse, while many people around them were worn down by death and destruction.
Wrap-up
The adult me still has difficulty making friends and entering into relationships. But when I do, I often discover the resulting reward is awesome. And, lets face it, if people can find happiness in the middle of an apocalypse, I can do the same in today’s world.
