Showing posts with label attainable goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label attainable goals. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

COUNTER-INTUITIVE GOAL SETTING by Sarah Raplee

Hi, I'm Sarah Raplee, author of surprising romances that cross genres into suspense, paranormal, fantasy and steampunk.

Last year I wasted a lot of time and effort setting yearly, monthly, and weekly writing goals. I read lots of articles on goal-setting, most of which repeated the same basic, sensible advice:
  • Set realistic-but-not-easy goals
  • Begin with your Big Goal and then break it down into sub-goals and sub-sub-goals so you won’t feel overwhelmed.
  • Track your progress and make adjustments where needed.
Why sensible? Because it seems to make sense, right?
Then why is my success rate so appalling? Why didn’t I achieve more of those detailed, reasonably-difficult goals? They’re intuitive and sensible, right?
For me, not so much.
It’s a mistake to assume that, like a magic bullet or a secret handshake, one method of achieving goals works well for everyone:  extroverts and introverts, plotters and pantsers, visual learners and auditory learners and kinesthetic learners, lefties and righties and OMG what about the ambidextrous?
There are a number of reasons the above method doesn’t work for me. I’m an analytical thinker, a left-brainer. Give me something to analyze (say, a Big Goal) and I’ll spend days breaking it down into miniscule chunks of future achievement. Analyzing gives me the illusion of control and an excuse to procrastinate rather than Do the Work.
Never forget that writing is the most dangerous profession. Words are important and risky and scary.
Doing the work requires me to anesthetize my analytical left brain and turn loose the creative right side of my noggin. Who knows how much of what that produces will be embarrassing, imperfect twaddle?
Twaddle that I’ll need to submit to my critique partners, and ultimately to agents, editors, and Susie next door. That’s a looming landslide of potential criticism, rejection or ridicule. Of course it scares me!
You’ve probably guessed by now that one of my many faults is a tendency toward self-criticism. Having lots of goals to potentially fail to achieve feeds into this negative aspect of my personality. And giving me free reign to reassess and make adjustments to the goals I spent days setting is like plugging my brain into an eternal procrastination feedback loop. It’s a prescription for failure.
This year, I’m trying a couple of new methods to help me progress toward my Big Goal. Both have shown documented results for many people.
One is Intention. Each morning, I focus for a few minutes on my intention to accomplish a small step in support of my current Big Writing Goal.
I’m also reading Robert Maurer’s life-changing (according to customer reviews) book, One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way.
From the blurb: “Introducing the practical and inspirational guide to incorporating Kaizen and its powerful principles into one's daily life. Rooted in the two thousand-year-old wisdom of the Tao Te Ching--"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step"--Kaizen is the art of making great and lasting change through small, steady increments…”

My Big Goal this year is to write and publish Book 2 of the Psychic Agents Series.
My Kaizen Goal is to write new words each week. Fingers crossed achieving this small goal will lead to achieving my Big Goal.
Am I the only writer who slows down when tasked with setting goals?
Has anyone else tried the Kaizen approach to productivity? ~Sarah

*** This is an updated version of a post I first published Jan. 13, 2011, on the now-defunct MWVRWA Blog.

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Summer End Blues...


Where Did The Summer Go?

I started back at the crazy day job this week. It seemed like just yesterday, I skipped out of the doors, like the students had a couple weeks prior, my head filled with grand ideas of painting rooms and counter tops, spending countless hours at the beach, reading awesome books, and sleeping in past 5 am.

This summer set all kinds of records for humidity… not great painting weather, I’d still be waiting for quick dry paint to set. As a person with serve asthma, the humidity is NOT my friend. Add a case of pneumonia and it’s safe to say that I returned to the crazy day job with my most of my to-do list still in-tact.

I did accomplish most of my writing goals and I did sleep past 5 am – 3 times actually....and it was drug induced sleep but hey...

I always fill my summer to-do list to the point wonder woman wouldn’t be able to complete it. Without the crazy day job sucking 50 hours out of my week, I feel I should be able to do70 hours worth of ‘stuff’. Yes, I know it doesn’t make sense. But yet I do it year after year.
The one thing that has changed is my willingness to prioritize and know deep down all of it isn’t going to happen. However, it’s still slightly disheartening to go back to work without fresh painted walls and counter tops, I did go back thinking I rocked this summer as far as my writing went.

One thing I always make time to do is catch a couple of the movies that are shown at the beach just a mile from my house....


My word of the year is ‘reinvent’. My goals all relate to ‘reinventing’ myself….in my writing, personally as far as weeding out the drains in my life, financially, etc. It’s through these goals I look at my summer and reflect. Sure, I could have done better but I did good.

Painting was NO where on my ‘reinventing’ goals, it was my ‘want’ goals. In the past I’ve struggled to separate goals from those that move me forward and those I just want. Now the walls and counter will need to be painted. I realize this but I also know I’ll find time.

Are you a goal master? Or do you ever struggle with goal setting? Separating the forward goals from the want goals?


Enjoy the rest of the summer everyone!

Friday, January 10, 2014

Do You Stick to Your New Year's Resolutions?


Are you one of the millions of people who made a list on New Year’s Eve or Day of resolutions for 2014?  Have you stuck to your resolutions?   

The statistics are against fulfilling New Year’s Resolutions.

January every year local gyms fill up with the newly inspired who are following their resolutions to get in shape, and lose weight.  Check those crowded gyms out at the end of February.  Most gyms will no longer be crowded.

A resolution is a promise to (fill in the blank) to one’s self.  Promises are made to be broken and once into the New Year the resolutions start to fall by the wayside.

I propose instead to set goals.  Small attainable goals and maybe one or two more difficult goals.  For instance:
                Resolution:  I want to lose weight and get in shape.
                Small goals and something concrete to shoot for:  I want to lose five lbs by June and take a walk around the block five days a week.
                Resolution:  I want to complete a 100,000 word manuscript, send it out and acquire an agent or editor.
                Small goals, attainable goals:  I will write five days a week.  Aiming for 1,000 words a day.  When the manuscript is complete, I will query two agents and two editors each week.  Small goals, attainable goals.

I think you can see the difference.  Goals are more flexible and what you aim for is a specific attainable goal.  Resolutions are set in stone and are the big picture, not necessarily attainable.

I never make my New Year’s Goals until well into January.  I have a few this year, in a few different areas of my life, and I will share with you.

1)      I will write for at least one hour every day.  My hope is I will write for four hours every day, but at least for one hour.
2)      For family:  I will bring my mother to visit her sister who is ninety years old at least every two weeks. Even though It drives me nuts to hear my Aunt repeat the same story four or five times.  :))
3)      I want to lose four lbs by the end of March.  I’ll join the diet plan at my gym for the next two months.  Should be a piece of cake, pardon the pun.
4)      On my off days from the gym, I will walk around the block for a little added exercise.
5)      I will find four things for which I am grateful in each day, no matter how bad the day was.  I will write it down in my Gratitude diary.


Do you make any New Year’s Resolutions or Goals?  Have you stuck to your resolutions or goals so far this year?