For you non country fans, that’s a song by stud-muffin Tim McGraw. It’s one of my favorites because it’s not just a song, it’s a story…as most country songs are.
Anyway, this month we’re talking “near-death experiences”….apropos for the month of October as Halloween is just around the corner, and although most people associate the holiday with dressing up in costume and going door to door begging for sweets, it’s actually the start of a Mexican holiday called Dia de los Muertos….Day of the Dead. Sounds spooky huh? But really the day is really about coming together to pray for and remember friends and family members who have died.
I’ve been surrounded by death most of my life---giving a whole new meaning to our theme--near death experiences. I’ve lost a lot of family over the years, starting when I was seven with the death of my grandmother who was barely in her sixties. In fact, in the span of six years I’d lost both grandparents and parents followed later by the loss of several beloved aunts and uncles (all on my mother’s side and at very young ages). Recently I said goodbye to my cousin, Thomas, who passed away after a lengthy illness. He was only nine years older than me.
As hard as these losses have been, I have to say, accepting these deaths has given me a somewhat new perspective on life. When someone is ill or has a health crisis, I tend to mentally prepare myself for their passing; accepting the inevitability so the heartache is easier to bear. In fact, I tend to speak of my own death to my children, to give them time to get used to the idea of not having me in their lives forever. Morbid I know. But, death is a part of life. We may be able to prolong it, but we can’t stop it from ending. And, if you believe in reincarnation like I do, you’ll come back to a new life in another day and time.