How to Kill A Relationship

Hi, I’m Judith Ashley, author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic women’s fiction with light paranormal elements. My stories show you what life could be like if you had a place like The Circle where you are unconditionally accepted, supported and loved. And where, with this support, you make choices to overcome the darkest nights and choose love and light.

In addition to being a fiction and non-fiction author, I am on the faculty of The William Glasser Institute International and The GlasserInstitute for Choice Theory. 

One of the core principles of Dr. Glasser’s teachings is that when our relationships with ourselves and important people in our lives is healthy and works, we are happier. Running counter to that in many people’s perspective is another core principle which is the only person’s behavior we can control is our own. Why counter? Because many people believe they can control someone else and in the process kill a relationship without meaning to by engaging in one or more (the more the faster to end the connection) of what Dr. Glasser called The Seven Deadly Habits.

Criticizing

Blaming

Complaining

Nagging

Threatening

Punishing

Rewarding to control aka bribery

I invite you to consider those relationships that are not as happy as you’d like them to be and monitor your use of these 7 deadly ways of interacting with people.

In addition monitor your self-talk because your relationship with yourself is the most important one of all. Radical self-care may be needed. If so, shoulders back, chin up and march forward knowing that in order for you to engage in a healthy relationship with others, it is important to have that relationship with yourself.

And if you are finding life a bit messy or confusing

or challenging or chaotic, check out Staying Sane in a Crazy World. You will learn more about Dr. Glasser’s concepts as well as what you can do to manifest a happier life for yourself including information for you to create your own personal staying sane plan.

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Look for my next non-fiction Yes, You Can Create The Life You Love this summer. All of my books are available at your favorite e-book vendor. Be sure to ask your local library if you’d prefer to read my books through that resource.

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