Certainty, Change and Core Values by Judith Ashley

Hi, I’m Judith Ashley, author of The Sacred Women’s Circle series, romantic women’s fiction with light paranormal elements. My stories show you what life could be like if you had a place like The Circle where you are unconditionally accepted, supported and loved. And where, with this support, you make choices to overcome the darkest nights and choose love and light.

When the Blog Queens were brain-storming 2021 topics the fall of 2020, we were still thinking more about the changes that come automatically to many in September: change in seasons; school in session, those rather “normal” activities that have been part and parcel of our lives for decades.

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This past year brought many changes to my life. You may think it was mask wearing but that would not be so. I’ve worn a mask during flu and allergy season for years.

So what has been different?

Reframing my world is #1.

What does that mean?

I grew up hearing the phrases “The only things certain are death and taxes” and “The only thing certain is change itself.” Over the decades of my own life, I learned that death is certain but there are people who never pay taxes. Until this year, I did think there were parts of the world around me that I could count on. However, that turned out to not be true.

When certainty is lost and our world crumbles fear, anxiety, anger and depression are common responses to that loss. A key question is “Does our world have to crumble?”

Well, mine did for several weeks until I remembered to use what I know works and what I shared in my book Staying Sane in a Crazy World.

The truth is being uncertain is uncomfortable at best unless we have a core of certainty within us upon which to draw. Where do we find this core of certainty? I find mine within my Core Values. Core Values are dependent on us alone. They may be framed to include others because we always believe people who share our values will have a better life, however, that is assuming everyone else sees the world as we do. And that just isn’t how the world works even if it is how we want it to work.

Here are three of my Core Values that support my inner certainty.

We are all connected to The Devine and thus are threads in The Fabric of The Universe which means we are all Sacred.

All experiences have a “gift” in them. It is my responsibility to find it.

We are all doing the best we can given our past and present life experiences, our goals/dreams/wants.

What do you draw upon when the uncertainty in the outer world threatens your inner peace and thus your inner certainty?

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